Ask Amy: How do I tell the parents what these ‘good kids’ are doing?

It sounds like you are referring to a situation where your child has been involved in some kind of activity or behavior that you feel is not appropriate for them to be doing. In this case, it's important to approach the conversation with sensitivity and respect for your child's feelings and privacy.

One way to start the conversation could be to express your concern for their well-being and ask if they are okay. You can then explain that you have noticed some behavior or activity that you feel may not be in line with their values or goals, and ask if they would like to talk about it.

It's important to listen actively and try to understand your child's perspective. They may have a valid explanation for their actions or may be feeling pressured by peers or other factors. It's also important to avoid making assumptions or jumping to conclusions, as this can make your child feel defensive or unheard.

If you do decide to discuss the specific behavior or activity in question, it's important to do so in a non-judgmental way and focus on the potential consequences rather than placing blame. You can also offer support and guidance to help your child navigate the situation and make positive choices moving forward.

Ultimately, the goal should be to have an open and honest conversation that helps your child feel heard and supported, while also encouraging them to make responsible decisions and prioritize their well-being.